29 February, 2012
Ah Facebook, the source and creator of so much angst on the internet.
A post caught my eye yesterday and prompted me to have a good think and post an update of my own. Which then sparked quite an interesting discussion and A LOT of comments. So thought I’d expand by making it into a blog post.
Basically, the general gist of what I was saying was that I have noticed girls complaining about the way they are treated by men. A general lack of respect and chivalry, however these are the same girls who get trashed, swear like a sailor and start fights in the street. I suggested that these girls can’t have their cake and eat it too and that if they wanted to be treated like a ‘lady’ then perhaps they should start acting like one.
This isn’t actually an attack on anyone in particular but I have noticed this phenomenon, particularly when I go out to places like the Valley. There is this increase in girls behaving badly. Out of control. I’m talking a scrap of material covering their lady bits and laying face down on the ground in a puddle of their own vomit. Or starting fights as I mentioned.
The general feeling I get from this is that these girls think it is ‘cool’ or liberating to behave this way. Like some form of extreme feminism. We can wear pants and vote, now look at us punching on and off our faces. That type of behavior is not attractive on anyone but particularly girls. Now before you get up in arms, don’t think that I am relegating women to the kitchen and suggesting they should be seen and not heard. Not the case at all.
But I do think there should be a little more class and decorum from these girls. Well, everyone really. I actually feel quite sorry for guys. I have seen men be abused for opening the door or offering up their seat for a lady. That’s not fair either. They are simply trying to be nice, they are not patronising you. Nice! Remember that people? That thing that makes everyone feel good?
I don’t condone women being treated poorly by men but it’s hard to respect someone that clearly doesn’t respect themselves. I’m also not saying women should never swear, or drink or dress provocatively.
God knows I’ve had my fair share of regrettable nights and even more regrettable hangovers the next morning. But those experiences taught me something. To grow up and start acting in a different way. And you know what? It worked! People’s attitudes towards me changed. Sure I’ve still got a reputation as a party animal, but I’m a RESPECTED party animal.
It can be done. So please try. For your own sakes.