18 January, 2013
Do you ever get the feeling that sometimes the universe is trying to tell you something? Like coincidences that are just way too well-timed to be an accident? A funny feeling that something is more significant than you realise, even if you don't know why? Some people think it's reading too much into things but I've learnt that these 'patterns' aren't just a random occurance. Whether directed by some unseen force or just picked up on by your brain as a focus, take note of these signs and really listen to what they are trying to tell you because you're often noticing these things for a reason. Because you need to see or understand something.
Take for instance, yesterday. The universe was bashing me over the head with a message of self love. In fact, had I not sat up and taken notice I fear a stomache bug of biblical proportions may have been waiting for me around the corner. NOW DO YOU WANT TO LOSE WEIGHT? HUH? HUH? You see since Christmas and the holiday period, like most of us, I have put on a little bit of weight. Considering in the last few months I'd been trying so hard to lose it, I was feeling quite disheartened by it all and desperate to be rid of it as quickly as it had come. (Yeah right, we wish!)
|Graphic by Suger Coat It|
There were a couple of days last week where I actually couldn't even look at myself in the mirror in my underwear because I knew what I would see would upset me so. Now, I knew this was a passing phase and that I would feel better about myself once I got back on track so I'm not silly enough to think avoiding the mirror is a solution but I certainly didn't want to add to the already bad feelings I had. Instead I threw myself into a week of fresh fruit, vegetables and a small amount of meat for protein and not much else. Not a bad thing, not only am I feeling better and looking a little better but it's also done wonders for my skin.
However in saying that, I'm still not rid of all the extra weight and had been feeling quite self-concious about it. And so yesterday, it was like the universe was saying 'ok lady, you've had you're little pity party but that's enough now. Pull your socks up, get over it and start feeling your happy, confident self again'. Through a series of 'messages' from a perfect stranger, a good friend and an idol I got the kick in the pants I needed. It was a total wake up call and I realised I needed to love myself, not just when I was in good shape but ALL THE TIME! They say true love isn't loving someone at their best but at their worst and that goes the same for yourself. Doubly so even.
|Sophie from Melbourne|
It began with this fantastic message from a young Melbourne girl. Her humourous take on the situation made her point seem even more powerful and the issue more ridiculous. Then this post from Suger, her 'tell it like it is' attitude mixed with her good natured wit and real personal experience bringing it home. Finally, it was these images of Bernie Dexter that really inspired me, made my heart soar and realise that it's ok. It's ok to put on a little weight. If you don't want to keep it then you can work to lose it again but it doesn't make you any less of a person, any less worthy of love from others or yourself. You loved yourself enough to allow yourself the pleasure of putting on the weight, so love yourself enough not to beat yourself up over it and love yourself enough to keep yourself healthy, if that means losing it again. Just. Love. Yourself.
Bernie is an incredibly successful pin up model, fashion designer, make up artist and all round glamour girl. She is absolutely stunning and has a wonderful personality to boot. She's a petite little thing and has unfortunately been suffering from some health problems lately. She admitted to putting on 12 pounds while she recovered from surgery but released photos from a photoshoot she did yesterday anyway. It's so easy to only allow the world to see the best of us and filter the rest from view but Bernie's bravery in sharing those images (even thought she still looks completely amazing) was not only an inspiration to me, it was a loud and clear message. Even though she still has a bangin body, you can see a bit of a difference when you compare the above picture with the below picture from a little while ago. Still, I have no doubt what she did would have done a lot for all of the women who follow her.
So to Sophie, Suger and Bernie I say thank you. For being an inspiration. For sending the right message and for helping me see the signs I needed to love myself again.
Please, look for the signs and love yourself. It's ok. No matter what, you are worth it. Always.